These days, we spend much of our alone time binge-watching reality TV, mindlessly scrolling through our social media feeds, or catching up with our (or our partner’s) friends. We never really have much time to sit in silence and be with ourselves. ‘Masturdating’ is a term coined when you take yourself on a date so that you can enjoy your own company and get to know yourself better. Here are some ways you can effectively masturdate!
Make Time To Do Something That You Love
The most obvious way to take yourself on a masturdate is to make time to do an activity that you absolutely love. Whether you love to dive into colouring books in your spare time, shoot photography or share your feelings through writing poetry, be sure to plan a time and date to be alone and work on your creative projects. It helps to find a quiet and safe space where you’ll be in comfort when getting stuck into your chosen activity, and at the same time, be able to openly communicate with your feelings and thoughts without feeling silly.
Put on Your Favourite Outfit
Another way you can get yourself in your best masturdating mood is to put on your favourite outfit. You may feel silly at first, dressing up to spend some time with yourself, but you ought to embrace the idea that YOU deserve to look good and feel great for your special date – aka the most important person in your life – aka YOU!
Leave Your Phone At Home
One simple way to take yourself on a date is to leave your phone at home, and go for a solo walk or drive around town. These days, being away from your phone can conjure up feelings of anxiety. If you’re one of these people, try putting your phone on silent so that you won’t be distracted with emails, instant messages and phone calls while you spend some quality time with your thoughts.
It’s Not Embarrassing to Be Alone
Many of us will shy away from the thought of going to see a movie alone, or go to a cafe / restaurant on our own. Too often we’ll cringe when we imagine ourselves dining solo at a restaurant because we think that others will perceive us as being a ‘socially awkward’ individual or even being someone who got stood up by a date. One way to overcome these feelings is to practice self confidence and welcome the idea that you owe it to yourself to have a nice meal on your own. Who wouldn’t want to enjoy some lovely cuisine in blissful silence? You’ll get the chance to absorb your surroundings and be able to thoroughly enjoy every bit of taste in your meal, while embracing the ambience of your chosen space.
No matter how you decide to masturdate, you will find that this precious time alone, will ground and heal you. You may feel a little awkward once you start your masturdating journey, but this will lessen in time as you learn to love and learn more about yourself.
Good luck and happy masturdating!
